Category: Safe Haven
Hi all,
when someone mentioned a tone of voice that makes you think a person gave you a certain look, it got me to thinking about voice sensitivity. How voice sensitive are you? me, I'm sensitive to the slightest tone, if there is the slightest irritation, the slightest annoyance in your tone of voice, I will pick up on it. so, since I can pick up on the slightest tone, an extremely loud and angry voice makes me want to run and hide and not speak to that person again, lol. I have that voice sensitivity in almost everything, daily life. even when I'm listening to television, when someone asks someone for something, something in the other persons tone will make me think, no, he/she really doesn't want to do it. Isometimes think I can pick up on things noone else can pick up on. On the one hand, voice sensitivity can come in handy, makes you more intuitive to others feelings, but when you are a fairlysensitive person, it can be rather unpleasant. So what about you all, how voice sensitive are you? and how does it affect the way you feel?
wonderwoman
I'm pretty voice sensitive as well, at least I try to be as some people don't always say what they mean and you have to detect it, haha I should not be talking though. I think that since I'm blind and can't see expressions, I tend to listen harder wito vocal expression, well obviously.
well I try to be when it comes to picking up on how someone feels, but I try not to be too voice sensitive so that picking up on a bad tone of voice makes me really upset. there were times when I felt I was the most voice sensitive person in the world, and noone else is as sensitive to voices as I am, but I've come across some people I use to talk to who picked up on something in my voice when certain people came in to a room
nope - I tend to be an insensitive rat !! LOL It HAS to be spelled out to me before I notice *grins*
I think I'm pretty voice-sensitive myself. FOr instance, I spoke to some people over the phone, and sometimes when they had to repeat something or commented on something, the inflection they used in their voices made me think they were, angry? or annoyed?, something. I really didn't feel like taking with them anymore at the moment because I wasn't sure what I'd said to make them talk like that. Also, a teacher was getting mad at someone behind me using a cell phone, and he was talking to the girl and kind of raised his voice, and I actually freaked out and jumped in my chair and wished I could just run out of the classroom. When he saw how I had reacted, he never did that around me again.
Wonderwoman, I so can relate to oyu in that point. THat is the reason why I am scared of my mum. And yeah, I am always scared of angry voices, and even the annoyed tone makes me not want to say anything anymore and just walk out.
I HATE when people shout, argue and fall out - I am sensitive to THAT... unfortunately !!
well, a few seem to feel as I do. Well, when I was a child, and even in to my teen years, if you spoke really harsh to me,especially for no reason, and I wasn't expecting it, I'd burst into tears. Then, if you spoke to me later and pretended like nothing happened, I wouldn't speak to you, and if you asked me a question and I had no choice but to speak, my words were always just one word sylables, yes, no, that sort of thing. The only thing different is I don't burst in to tears when someone sounds irritable or snappish, the rest of it though, I'm still the same. Someone on a voice chat once said he didn't like text chat, because you couldn't tell someones feelings. Well, there is truth to that, you can't always tell if someone is sincere, but even if you can hear the persons voice, you still can't necessarily tell, if the person is a good actor, and can sound sincere. On the other hand, sometimes not being able to pick up on a persons feelings can be a good thing. I've been in a couple of confrontations on accessible chat where I was relieved I couldn't hear the voice of the person I was talking to, and I've even gotten some replies on here that made me relieved I couldn't hear the persons voice, lol.
wonderwoman
The most of the time i am voice sensitive but some other times i think everything is normal but when sited friends are with me they make commends later of how the other person was looking and things like that. In a way at times like that i feel lucky because i am blind because i didn't realise anything so i don't have to worry but my sited friends keep thinking about it.
I am a shy person so i avoid talking to people on voice chats and things like that because i give the wrong impression. Because i am shy i don't say much and people usualy think that i don't want to talk but this is not the kace at all. I am more confident at writing.
Nikos
Wonderwoman I'm the same way that you are! My Mom and my neice are fighting a lot now! I just try to avoid them! To the last person yeah I know how you feel I'm shy too! Hope
well shyness has never been a problem for me. yeah hope, for me the best thing for me to do when anyone is in a bad mood is to stay in my room and shut the door. when we use to go to my aunts in iowa, and a lot of people would be in bad moods, it depressed me, and I'd think, why am I here? I was better off to have my own room, and they could come in and see me, or not if they didn't want to. I probably give badimpressions, because I say what I think, not to be mean or vicious, but saying what comes to mind just feels more natural to me than struggling to think of something perfect to say, or wondering, was that the wrong thing to say. if I have to go around being careful of every single word every time I speak, or type, I might as well become a total recluse and never speak again, and I don't think I can do that, lol
i am definitely voice sensitive. sometime i judge whether i will get along with someone by there voice but then when i ask someone they say they were smiling the whole time. hate this
Wonderwoman, I had the same problem earlier. I would burst into tears when people would shout, and I still do sometimes.
Yeah. I found out I still have that problem also. My mom and I started arguing about something day before yesterday. It was short, but she was frustrated because we were discussing how to fix my room. Anyway, she wasn't yelling, but just her attitude and the fact that I felt bad about ending up with a mess in my room when I had tried to move stuff around all got to me. She also started giving my a long talk about it, (she was calm and her voice was normal for this talk), and she kept having to ask me to look at her, which I wasn't doing because I was mad or anything; I just don't feel comfortable making eye contact a lot of the time. Plus I felt very stressed already. SO anyway, I started crying. I think it was a combination of everything that had happened at that time that got to me... My point is, I still cry sometimes or at least feel bad when someone shows irritation, annoyance, or whatever toward me. I guess it's because I don't know how to react to it at the moment, like what to say in response; I litterally just can't think of anything good or that would make sense at that moment. My usual way to dealing with that is to walk away and/or not to speak with that person, at least for a while.
I think it depends on who is talking to you. If there is someone oyu hardly know and their voice is slightly annoyed, you might just shut up and go out of the room. If it is someone you know I sometimes dare saying "what#s wrong, did I say anything wrong?" or something like that. But if people are angry it doesn'T matter if I know them or not. Angry voices scare me very, very much.
Hi inesle, I have often wished I was at the point where nothing anyone could say would hurt my feelings or make me mad, but still be sensitive enough to remember what being sensitive was like. I think sometimes it's not what you say, but the way you say things. somethings that made me cry when I was little would make me mad now. When I was a child, if you told me to shut up, well I shut up, but I cried. Now if someone tells me to shut up, I get mad and will talk all the more, hahaha. I think if you run in to that sort of thing often, like in chat rooms and such, you get use to that environment, even though you never get where you don't feel anything, but it lessens enough so you can hide it better.
wonderwoman
Hi Wonderwoman my Mom says I always have to speak my mind! Now that my Dad hhas died I find my self speaking my mind now more than ever!
hi hope,
I understand how that is. I speak my mind even more than I use to. when I first went on text chat, I always tried to get trouble makers and the meanies out without making too many waves. I had a hard time with it, and if it weren't my room I mostly left. I tried sort of half way to turn the cheek and not say anything back, for fear it would get worse, then one day I was in a room and this boy came in and accused me of being a hacker, and when I asked why me, he said, well maybe it's the way you act, or your nickname, wonderwoman. I told him wonderwoman was a tv show back in the 70's, about a woman from another planet, who had powers. Well, he told me, good bye hacker, and I just sat there. and he said, I said good bbye. I told him I wasn't going anywhere, that I hadn't done anything. A girl I talked to thought I should do him like all the others and just leave, but I was getting tired of it. he told me either I left, or he would make me leave, and it wouldn't be friendly. I told him I wasn't going and furthermore, I was putting him on ignore. And I did, and the person I was talking wanted to know how to put someone on ignore on the program, and when I told him, he put the guy on ignore also and we went on with our conversation like he wasn't there, till finally, he left. Somehow, that was a turning point in the way I handled people, and although I never started anything with anyone, if someone started giving it to me, or if I even thought someone was going to start something, I gave it back. It got to the point where if one of the bullies came in and saw me in there, they left. It just totally turned around, first I was the one to leave, then they started leaving. I must say, I got some amusement out of it, a few chuckles, lol.
wonderwoman
hi hope,
I understand how that is. I speak my mind even more than I use to. when I first went on text chat, I always tried to get trouble makers and the meanies out without making too many waves. I had a hard time with it, and if it weren't my room I mostly left. I tried sort of half way to turn the cheek and not say anything back, for fear it would get worse, then one day I was in a room and this boy came in and accused me of being a hacker, and when I asked why me, he said, well maybe it's the way you act, or your nickname, wonderwoman. I told him wonderwoman was a tv show back in the 70's, about a woman from another planet, who had powers. Well, he told me, good bye hacker, and I just sat there. and he said, I said good bbye. I told him I wasn't going anywhere, that I hadn't done anything. A girl I talked to thought I should do him like all the others and just leave, but I was getting tired of it. he told me either I left, or he would make me leave, and it wouldn't be friendly. I told him I wasn't going and furthermore, I was putting him on ignore. And I did, and the person I was talking wanted to know how to put someone on ignore on the program, and when I told him, he put the guy on ignore also and we went on with our conversation like he wasn't there, till finally, he left. Somehow, that was a turning point in the way I handled people, and although I never started anything with anyone, if someone started giving it to me, or if I even thought someone was going to start something, I gave it back. It got to the point where if one of the bullies came in and saw me in there, they left. It just totally turned around, first I was the one to leave, then they started leaving. I must say, I got some amusement out of it, a few chuckles, lol.
wonderwoman
I'm boice sensitive; I have to be because I can't pick up on facial expressions. Sometimes if people sounded like they were angryor something like that I burst into tears. And I really hated that; I still do. And when I say this I'm ta;ling about a certain person. That happened to me this year, This person had this evil sound in his/her voice. I didn't want to cry, really I didn't. I held my my tears back for a few seconds, but when me and this person walked in the store, just after the salesman was welcoming us, I started crying right there on the spot. When this person asked me what was the matter I couldn't say anything. I just couldn't get the words out. And even before we walked in I just knew I'd start crying, but she kept saying, "come on." But I just don't like when I burst into tears when someone has this sharpness in their voice. It irritates mme because I feel that I'm crying for no reason. Then when people ask me why I was crying I tell them I don't know because I'm afraid to tell them that someone sounded very harsh to me, and that I didn't like it.
Hi lilkimmy,
I understand how that is. All i can say is i'm glad i grew out of that. I think as yu get older and are in those kinds of environments, you will get tougher. Actually, i'm not in that kind of environment much and not here at home. my mom and i get along fairly well, though if she were on her computer and we could get on the computer at the same time, being in the same chat rooms would not work. But i know how awkward that can be, but hopefully, like me, as you get older, it will get better, even if you never grow totaly out of it.
wonderwoman
I burst into tears too when people sound too angry. So ... I totally understand you, Daria. *hugs*
This is an interesting discussion. I'd like to think I'm voice-sensitive. I don't likebeing taken to task, and often find myself mentally retreating into a corner. I can feel my body language at those times too. My head goes down, and I think I tense up internally. The thing that gets me through is know ing it won't last forever.
On a more pleasant note, I love hearing a smile. The interesting thing is that when some people smile, you can hear something like a barely audible click. I can't help but respond to that. I'm not playing when I tell them it's nice to hear them smile.
i'm extremely sensative to voice in terms of from hearing the voice i can know at least 50% of their caractors and etitudes. usually what i observe, turn to be correct. i'm not judging a person by listening to their voice but still yeah...
I don't judge a person by their voice either, but rather i go by what seems to be the tone of voice. Modifated, I think i kinow what you mean by hearing a smile in someone's voice. If there is a smile in someone's voice, they have a very light jolly tone. I think that saying is true, its not necessarily what you say but how you say it. I use to talk to a man in germany who was outspoken but mostly I couldn't take offense at everything, because in some cases, he was giving an honest opinion, but his tone didn't sound sharp. For instance, someone asked what a particular german word meant, and he didn't understand what she mean for a while, then he finally said, I think your german is too bad for me. He was talking to the other person, but i wouldn't've taken offense because there was a sort of light laughter to his tone and no sharpness at all. I tried to learn german once, thinking it would be fun to be able to understand what someone was saying in another language. My mom bought tapes, but you would have to be able to read the print books that came along with the tapes, and i just couldn't get my vocabulary up to speed. But if a german had a laughing tone in his or her tone when he/she said, i think your german is too bad for me to follow, lol, I woulnt've taken offense, but if on the other hand, if the person said sometthing like, your german sucks, or your pronunciation is a big fat joke, well that would've hurt my feeelings for sure, or at the very least made me a bit resentful. I found out how terrible my german really was whn i tried listening to a german broadcast on shortwve, and a news reporter was talking about someone being taken to the hospital. I onl caught snatches of it, and from the way it sounded, it sounded like he was saying the persons' arm was in the hospital, lol. I knew then how bad m ygerman really was, ha. But anyway, i think its all in the way yu say things andnot necessarily what you say, and a tone of voice plays a big part in it.
wonderwoman